Defining Domestic Violence

The United States Surgeon General first listed violence as a public health priority in 1979.

Intimate Partner Violence, or IPV, can consist of:

• Physical abuse — This includes hitting, slapping, punching, and any form of physical harm. Bruises, broken bones, and unexplained injuries may be a warning sign.
• Emotional abuse — This can come in the form of insults, humiliation, threats, and constant criticism. Victims often experience anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem.
• Sexual abuse — Unwanted sexual advances, coercion, or non-consensual sexual acts fall under this category. Signs may include unexplained sexually transmitted infections or injuries.
• Economic abuse — Controlling a victim's finances, restricting access to resources, and preventing them from holding a job are common tactics. Victims may be financially dependent on their abuser.
• Psychological abuse — Manipulation, gaslighting, and mind games can have a profound impact on a victim's mental health. They may doubt their own reality or feel trapped.

Domestic Violence by the Numbers

The Consequences

According to the Emory School of Medicine, over five million incidences of domestic violence occur each year in the United States. On average, this leads to two million injuries and 1,300 deaths. 85% of victims are women, with those age 16-24 most likely to be abused. In the United States, a woman is beaten every nine seconds, and three are killed every day.  

Survivors are also at risk for other chronic conditions affecting the:

• Heart
• Digestive system
• Reproductive system
• Muscular system
• Skeletal system
• Nervous system

Survivors can suffer from depression and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). They face a higher risk for addictive behaviors like smoking, binge drinking, and risky sexual activity. People from marginalized groups like LGBTQ+ or racial and ethnic minorities are at higher risk for worse consequences.

Recognizing Domestic Violence

Sometimes it’s hard to speak up for someone you think is being abused. We tend to make excuses for why things are a certain way, or we worry we’ll be told to, “mind our own business.” But those being abused can’t or won’t always ask for help. By saying something, you could ultimately save their life.

Abusers often demonstrate the following:

• A bad temper
• Abuse of other family members, children, or pets
• Accusations that the victim is flirting or having an affair
• Antiquated beliefs about gender roles in relationships
• Blaming the victim for anything bad that happens
• Controlling all finances
• Controlling what the victim wears or how they act
• Cruelty to animals
• Demeaning the victim publicly or privately
• Embarrassing the victim in front of others
• Extreme jealousy
• Extremely controlling behavior
• Forced sex
• Harassing the victim at work
• Possessiveness
• Sabotaging birth control methods
• Sabotaging the victim’s ability to work or attend school
• Unpredictability
• Verbal abuse

If you think someone is being abused, you should:

• Never judge them
• Avoid telling them they need to leave (they know that)
• Not badmouth the abuser
• Act as a trustworthy friend to the victim
• Tell them why you’re worried and be specific
• Listen
• Offer help
• Respect their choices
• Don’t tell them what they should do

Remember, as much as you want to help them, you’re not in their shoes. Respect the complexity of the situation but stay anchored as an ally and a voice of reason. 

Essential Resources

We’re Here for You

AltaMed is available to help you, or others, find resources to end an abusive relationship. Our Behavioral Health Services are staffed with licensed clinical social workers who speak English and Spanish and are trained to help you through whatever life puts in your way. You don’t have to go through it alone. To learn more, call (855) 425-1777.